New Thresholds - "You are the lock, and the key".
For many of us, change is often scary, as it requires us to let go of what is known and familiar and step into the void of the unknown. Our brain's fear is often in conflict with our heart’s knowing and our soul’s calling, so much so, that the suffering of not taking a step forward, becomes greater than the turmoil of our doubting mind.
And yet ... We know that nothing stands still. We understand that life is perpetually shifting, unfolding, transitioning and expanding. And we inherently understand that we too, are part of that intrinsic evolutionary dance.
Past hurts, traumas, tethering ourselves to a specific place, a certain role, association or ideal, become limiting beliefs that can keep us clinging to a former place in time, or a certain way of being (“This is just who I am”). Emotional patterns can become quick-sand that keeps us stuck in a specific groove, impinging on our ability to merge and flow with the natural rhythm of life and a world that is always in motion.
The first stage of any transformation is awareness. We can only change what we know. Creating room in your life for self-reflection, meditation, therapy, journaling, etc. is the foundation of self-exploration, and accessing the inner lantern of awareness that yield our own epiphanies, wisdom, insights, guidance and truth. I like to call this process lock and key. The lock is my unconscious, what is buried, repressed, denied etc. And my desire to transform that into light, to bring it into the conscious, to help me grow and transform, is my key. I am my own key. As are you.
With practice, we begin to notice and track the places where we get caught and stuck emotionally; the habits, routines and patterns influenced and shaped from our past conditioning. Recognizing that we are all a product of our conditioning is the key to unlocking ourselves from our conditioning.
Without judging any of it, we come to observe and understand that where we are is not really the deeper truth of who we are. We realize that we are no longer this former version of ourselves and that we can’t move forward without first releasing the grip of what was.
This ushers in the second stage of transformation - personal choice. The brilliance of Maya Angelou reminds us that “When we know better, we can do better”. With newfound awareness we can ask ourselves what we’d like to experience instead. How do we want to feel? How can we support ourselves? Can we give ourselves patience, compassion, forgiveness, healing, assistance, joy, rest, some slack? What decisions or actions must we take in order to move in a different direction? From one of reaction and suffering, to a place of responding and alignment. Even if no-one has ever shown us how, we can still learn to hold our own heart and be our own best loving ally. Our choice is our personal power. When we choose LOVE, it becomes our Super Power.